The Church does a disservice to its members by prohibiting growth through experiencing life. When there is a set rule for every behavior, situation and experience, the Church circumvents the learning process and inhibits any personal growth an individual may gain through making mistakes and actually learning.
We are like trees. The church props us up as we grow. The church guides us to grow in a specific way. And we depend on the church to hold us up. If the props suddenly get shown to be a mirage, the tree may collapse if it doesn't have the strength to stand on its own. We need to teach our kids to think for themselves and to create their own identity, outside of just being a member of the church.
